Tuesday, August 21st Give Away:
We Can Do Hard Things
When you go through one of life's proverbial shit storms, you need a rallying cry. One of our friends, Celine, has adopted "Strength and Honor" from Gladiator as her rallying cry while she undergoes cancer treatment 10+ hours from home. We know other people who use "Tawaaannnda" as if they're blowing a giant fear to smithereens just like Ms. Evelyn did in Fried Green Tomatoes when she crashed her big ole boat car into a snotty lil' Slug Bug. (Now, that's a woman.)
For Sissy and I during our proverbial shit storm, we used "we can do hard things". This phrase serendipitously came to us about two months prior to said shit storm, and apparently, it was sent to us because we'd need it when we asked, "how in the actual fuck are we supposed to get through this?"
no less than four thousand times a day.
We learned this magical and empowering phrase from Glennon Doyle Melton when we read her 2016 New York Times bestseller, Love Warrior. As soon as I read the first chapter of Love Warrior, I knew Sissy and I had to experience this beauty together. While we grew up together in the same house with the same parents, we each had very different-awkward childhood experiences and thus, very different perspectives on life. And I’m not sure I would have ever appreciated our differences or different perspectives during our shit storm had it not been for Glennon, her stories, and her relationship with her sissy.
Glennon Doyle (Melton) was an alcoholic, bulimic, and drug addict until one day, she received both an eviction and an invitation from life. As she laid on her bathroom floor on Mother’s Day in 2002, holding a positive pregnancy test, she decided that she wanted to start living and was tired of hiding from the big, brutal world with an armor of addictions. That day she vowed to get sober from the booze, cigs, and drugs, and improve the relationships she had with people and food.
In 2009, Glennon began a blog called momastery.com to simply put her truths out into the world. Although she always had a desire to be known, she had no grand expectations at being rich or famous, she just wanted for people to see her and know that she existed.
Now, in 2018, Glennon is an activist, speaker, and thought leader with two New York Times bestsellers under her belt and a blog with over 750,000 followers. She’s the President of Together Rising, a non-profit that’s focused on lifting women up, because she believes when you lift one woman up, she brings her people up with her, too.
There’s so much about Glennon’s voice that resonates deeply with us and our tribe that it's impossible to list everything we love about her and her voice. Here are a few things that have stuck out, and have been incredibly useful, especially in our new normal:
We can do hard things.
- There's no such thing as other people's children because we all belong to each other.
When life hands you an eviction from your current life it doesn’t do so without also handing you an invitation.
Your job is to show up in life, use your voice, and to be a brave truth-teller. It’s not your job to babysit your truth and follow it around to make sure everyone agrees with it and clarify things when they don’t. Your job is to simply show up, use your voice, and tell the truth. Lather, rinse, repeat. Every day of your life, especially when it’s really fucking hard.
Life is both brutal and beautiful, therefore, it’s brutiful.
When you’re overwhelmed with all of life’s stressful things, just do the next right thing. Don’t worry about four steps after that, just do whatever is next. And then the next. And then the next. Soon, you’ll find yourself making it through all the hard things.
Glennon’s phrase became our rallying cry and inspired this blanket with our little twist on it--we can do hard things, after this nap though. Because first we take the naps, and then we do all the hard things. (BRB, gotta go put that phrase on a t-shirt/blanket/tote, etc. This time, no nap necessary.)